Dr. Nerdlove writes great stuff for those who are socially awkward, inept, etc. He writes about not being creepy, treat others as humans instead of objects on pedestals, not being sexist, know how to read body language, how to approach people, etc. Great advice! Here’s his latest about creepers and how some people have the idea that it’s only considered creeping if you’re not attractive.
Of course, as soon as anyone brings up the topic of creepy behavior, there’s the inevitable pushback, because why should men change – or even acknowledge – that they’re acting like creepers? Instead, it quickly becomes a referendum on how unfair it all is. One of the perennial defenses against creepy behavior is the ever classic, “If a hot guy does it, it’s not creepy!” The implication, of course, is that calling someone creepy is a way of punishing “ugly” men for daring to presume that they may stand a chance with someone who’s demonstrably out of their league. Even with the recent Hollaback street harassment video, people were quick to defend creepers by pointing out that their crime was to not be hot enough.